who are we?

I didn't want to seem overeager as someone new to the tribe; but then I figured, "what the heck." Here's my 2 cents:

Since becoming energy-aware, I've found myself "falling in love all over the place."

When I saw the words, "Love Without Labels," I figured that this a tribe I should belong to.

I'm hoping that by observing and participating in this tribe, I will be able to figure out how to develop future relationships in ways that are faithful both to the expectations of the person(s) with which I become involved and to the energies with which I am now intimately involved.

Howzzat?

Heya.... (name's Robert, by the way)

As much as there were things about the movie "Chasing Amy" that I didn't care for, one of the scenes that I did love was the scene in which Joey Lauren Adams' character explains to Ben Affleck's character the reason why she re-opened the door to a man after a long time of being exclusively with women. If you've seen it, you know, but for those that haven't, in short her explanation was that the reason she was open to women in the first place was the thought of 'why automatically cut my options for love in half by being limited only to men'.....she used the same logic vice versa in her explanation for being with him.....

I've thought a lot about that recently. First, to be clear, I don't necessarily have a problem with certain labels. If it works for someone, then by all means, use them. It's more the expectations that can sometimes come with those labels that bother me. But that's just me. Every person and circumstance is different, and as long as I can live and believe as I please, I just assume allow others to do the same; I'm not a very "politically correct" person, but I try and be a respectful one...That said, I've come to a point on my own path that is starting to feel like it's beyond labels......

Aaaanyway....

I've lived the last decade or so as a man who has been involved with other men. This hasn't really changed, but I'm finding the parameters of my attractions haven't so much changed but have definitely broadened. Women seem to catch my eye lately more than they have in a long time. I've always preferred 'queer' to 'gay' because I felt like the ambiguity in it resonated a lot better with me. This has never been more true. 'Gay' just doesn't cut it, and 'bisexual' doesn't either, because it's still not quite accurate......I really don't care at this point......The funny thing is, I'm surprised (thought I shouldn't be) at the reaction I've gotten from some of the people close to me, even the ones who are normally very open-minded individuals or who have supposedly had other label issues in their own lives. It reminds me a lot of when I started to 'come out' a few years ago, only in reverse...

So this is another kind of 'coming out', I guess, but more of a 'coming IN'.......coming in to the realization of my true self, even if it's that the nature of that is that it's always changing.....

Cheers to that.

What a refreshing topic- love without labels.

I've always kindof felt that way, never really claiming one thing or another. I just AM. And I just love who i love, which is usually everyone.

Sexuality is to me less black and white and more of a grey line of Continuum... there are straight people that are WAAAYYY straight (we know some i'm sure), and there are GAY people who are fabulously flamboyantly gay. there are those that are bi - some that are bi curious - like they would think about it but never would take it up themselves) and so on... there are people outside of this little realm that like pets too much i'm sure... so really I am not into lableing myself along this line of thought. I just do what I do when I do it with whom I do it with. I never really understood why what I choose in the bedroom was of any consern of anyone else besides the partner(s) that I am with.

I have a feeling that most of you will agree to some extent.

Its refreshing to be able to read thoughts of likeminded individuals huh? :) Thanx for the venue to express my thoughts (spelled correctly or incorrectly).

1 luv, t.

Generally I've tried to ignore the labels applied to me by those who want to keep me safely in some little box. I've been lucky and have mostly been able to find friends who disdain labels as well. The worst times in my life have been when I've allowed other people to define me.

I've never understood why love has to have so many restrictions and why what is between a person's legs is more important than what's between their ears. Why we're supposed to portion out our love like it's a limited resource. It's nice to see so many other people with the same "problems."

Aloha,
That about sums it up for me - ALOHA. I believe, and frequently manifest, love for all. an all pervading spirit of love. i want it to surround me, protect me, and envelop those around me.

how could i label this? um, polyamorous, bisexual, bi-curious, polycuddly, orgiastic, hmm. some of these fit me at certain times, but don't label me. i have the right to live in the moment and always ride the tao of change!

with all the wounding we have incurred around these labels, why not just give it a rest? free the blockages, stagnations, blow the phlem out of these silly labels in our heads!

i do understand that it's our nature to categorize things to try to put our heads around them. for instance, i'm glad my pilot last week labels himself so. as long as we are free to be in the moment and not chained down to words.

words are so important, so powerful...

Just found this tribe today.

Saying hello.....

Hey everyone, I'm another newbie I just joined tribe.net, and I found thing group under one of my friends' tribe lists.

I've spent plenty of the time in the past trying to conclusively label myself, and I've come to be happy with just having things unresolved. Sometimes I feel bi, sometimes totally straight, and every once in a blue moon, totally gay. I'm not "transgendered," but my personal balance of masculinity and femininity shifts around. I'm pretty sure I'm poly, but I haven't technically been in a poly relationship.

I've been involved with a group called Lovetribe lately, and I've been helping organize snuggle parties, which have been amazing in how they make me feel more connected to humanity and aware of people, empathy, energy, etc.

I snuck in the back door recently :)

I am a lover of all things. My heart surged with warmth when I found this tribe. After looking at the people in it and reading some of the posts I knew I wouldn't be able to stay away.

As far as labels I would use for myself .. hmm .. tattooed and pixxxie hair-d animal lover. :-D

Honestly, I'm still just struggling with the 'love isn't sex' and 'sex isn't love' dynamic.

I swore I'd never get married. Then I met a man that felt the way I did about relationships, and what they should be but never are. We had an 'open' marriage until the day it ended - in part because he no longer wanted it to be open. We had other relationships on and off over our 13 year marriage. It wasn't until about 7 or 8 years into it that I ever even heard the term polyamorous, which I instantly migrated towards, learned as much as I could about, and became involved with the local community.

After my marraige fell apart, I became 'monogomous' with my OSO. When that fell apart... I started dating but nothing serious. Then I met someone, very straight laced and definitely monogomous... and we've been dating for about five months now.

Honestly, I don't know if this can work. I care for him, and I love what we have in our relationship but I've found that I'm holding back and ackward in my relationships and friendships outside of ours. I don't like it, not at all. For him it's an issue of sex, for me it's an issue of no boundaries with those you love and care for.

I have no idea what labels to put on myself. I just believe with all my heart that human beings are creatures of infinite love and restricting that love just seems... unnatural. Wrong.

*shrugs*

~ Felina

I am sarah!
I like love. love it, in fact.
I'm sick of having to label myself and fit myself into certain pre-picked categories of sexuality. I'm not straight, but I'm not a lesbian..and I'm not bisexual, because that excludes people between genders or who are genderqueer. I'm female, but I don't always feel completely like a woman -- I'm not transgendered, though.

I'm just me, and I love, and I expect the people who love me to do so no matter who I love.

So there!